Episode 13

Beejal shares her remarkable journey, outlining her descent and her recovery

Episode Notes

This week Roksana is joined by Beejal Coulson, Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) coach and founder of Quantum Life Technique. Beejal is a wife and mum who had fallen out of love with the daily grind of teaching as a marketing lecturer. During this time, she also developed two autoimmune conditions that resulted in her inability to continue working. On the podcast, Beejal shares remarkable her journey of transformation as she started the journey of healing and discovering her life’s purpose.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The reason for the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual strain she experienced

  • The value of listening to yourself without questioning and judging.

  • Knowing that your body can heal itself instead of falling at the mercy of medical intervention. Take responsibility for your own health!

  • What were the “healing habits” that allowed Beejal to get to a better point in her life?

  • Seeing that life doesn’t happen to us, but life happens for us

  • Learning to accept yourself. Being different is great!

About Beejal Coulson:

After living with IBS for many years, experiencing a nervous breakdown and being diagnosed with Anxiety and Hypothyroid I have been able to be liberated from the understanding of the root causes and be reprogrammed to live life without compromise as a result of training in and experiencing Rapid Transformational Therapy. I am a highly experienced with an astounding track record of successes.

My curiosity to want to live an extraordinary life led me to creating and founding Quantum Life Technique. I discovered my highest potentials and aligned to them and shared the process with my clients who were able to fast tracked their futures.

Work with me and your life will be transformed and you will be empowered so you too can live the life you love.

You can find Beejal Coulson on…

Website: https://beejalcoulson.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beejal-coulson-b45a438/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beejalcoulson/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beejalcoulson/

Get Beejal’s book here! https://www.amazon.com/Ignite-Female-Change-Makers-Exceptional-ebook/dp/B088P7MFK9/


[Roksana] My guest on today’s show is Beejal Coulson. She’s a wife and a mum. During her career as a marketing lecturer, she found she had fallen out of love with the daily grind of teaching, and around this time Beejal develop not one but two autoimmune conditions resulting in her inability to continue work. Beejal took her health and her life into her own hands and began a journey of healing and aligning healing with her purpose. Today, Beejal shares her journey of transformation. Welcome Beejal!

[Beejal] Hi Roksana, thank you for having me.

[Roksana] You’re welcome, thank you for making some time for me today. Beejal, I’d love to know a little bit about your back story.

[Beejal] So, I moved to the UK when I was four years old from Kenya… my grandparents were born in India and we lived in the suburbs of North West London, and I moved to St. Albans about 14 years ago. I live with my husband and teenage daughter and for me my father was a great role model for me growing up and I was the eldest. I had a sister and a brother who quite young a lot younger than me and for me, my opportunity came when I went- when I left home to study, when I left for University. For me it was freedom more than anything and perhaps I wasn’t studying at the time what was my passion, but it was it was almost like a gateway to discovering who I was and what I liked and there was so much that there was for me to discover… and you know as a child I loved art and music but unfortunately that had been frowned upon. So I had studied Sciences to begin with but I found my way at University studying business and I then went on to qualify for an MBA, and I became a University lecture at quite a young age in Marketing to begin with, then also taught Psychology and I ended up teaching for a long time, 21 years. I loved, my job, I loved teaching, I loved inspiring others. I got to travel around the world as well and teach and it was my passion. I was good at it, I loved sharing, I loved putting things together, I loved being creative in the way I presented… and it was something… students really really- they enjoyed and I was very popular as a lecturer and um I I just found a lot of contentment, fulfilment from what I did. But there was one aspect that that wasn’t working for me and it was showing up in my health. My health was depleting over the years and it was getting incredibly challenging to put on a show to present, and I was usually teaching in the hundreds not just like 15 students, 20 students- 100 students, 200 students… very, very demanding… and the one aspect that I found wasn’t working for me… I wasn’t feeling valued/feeling rewarded. I found myself working a lot. I found myself working, and I couldn’t keep up with the level of work. It was just mounting instead of getting less despite being established as a lecturer, so I found that the balance in my life wasn’t there and in the end my body rebelled. It whispered, it nudged, it shouted and then it screamed. In the the end I had a breakdown.

[Roksana] Talk us through your breakdown. What happened? Was it a physical or mental breakdown?

[Beejal] Yeah it was everything. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and my mind was still ready to be conscientious and work, but my body said, no, if you carry on I’m actually going to kill you. And so I was actually forced to listen to my body, to actually take- well actually, I was diagnosed with anxiety and a further autoimmune condition and declared unfit to work.

[Roksana] How did you feel when you got that diagnosis and you were unfit to work?

[Beejal] I was in shock to begin with, I was in shock. Of course, deep down I knew it was the right thing but I was in shock because I just kept going and going and going, and then it changed. I then realised how did I not put myself first? How did I put work and everything else ahead of me? So there was a lot of soul searching it really was taking steps back and connecting to who I am, connecting to present moments, finding peace within myself. That allowed me- that gave me the opportunity to realise that things hadn’t been right for a long time and it isn’t that I didn’t do anything about it. I had also trained as a coach whilst I of teaching, I’d set up two businesses… I think what had happened though was that I was searching outside of myself not knowing that the answer lay within myself.

[Roksana] You were acquiring qualifications and validation from the outside world.

[Beejal] Yes, yes. But it led to me being even more tired because you’re already working hard and then you’re studying or you’re taking on new projects. That added to the detriment of my- of my body and my health, so that wasn’t working either.

[Roksana] I think it’s I think it’s really common for people to feel burnout, I think it’s also common for people to look outside of themselves for validation and extend themselves beyond their energies can allow and I think- I think a lot of people resonate with that, especially people that work in the corporate world.

[Beejal] Yeah.

[Roksana] I’d love to talk about your healing journey a little bit, because you came across a very interesting modality so tell us about that.

[Beejal] Yes, so I mean even before the breakdown, I had been researching for many years. You know I had been going on holistic retreats, I researched a lot into so many different ways, been to workshops, read books, I had done quite a lot and I was still in search and what happened was when I found myself going within, I discovered my intuition which had been missing for a long time. I started listening to myself, if that makes sense, and I started to see the signs and I started to allow myself to be guided without questioning, without judging, and where I was led to, because I was determined to heal and I was determined to heal as naturally as possible because going down the allopathic route was really to be on medication for the rest of my life… and I didn’t want that. I’ve always sought as much as possible to live a natural life and I’ve always been very interested in the holistic world and so it led me to a modality called Rapid Transformation Therapy and it’s actually a short space of time from when I had a breakdown to when I found myself on the training course for this modality… and I just knew on the first day of that course that this was it. Not only was it going to transform me, it was going to transform the lives of so many others. So being in line with my mission to still want to make a difference and help others, this was- this was going even more to a deeper level where I was able to fulfil my mission. It was very exciting for me because this was a very, very powerful modality I just have this feeling inside me that I just knew… I just knew that this was going to really make huge impact on myself and others.

[Roksana] Would you say that you felt an instant shift or was it gradual? Did it happen in a couple of months?

[Beejal] Right, well when I was on the training course, we worked with each other and there was some really powerful insights that came through and I realised once I’d qualified and certified in being a therapist and that I would- I could help other people, that I needed to continue my journey and I had to be committed to my own healing because healing with the mind, healing things that are mental health related, they can take some time… but healing things that are manifested in the body can take a longer amount of time, and it’s also very individual so I had to really give myself- had to be patient and give myself the time and understanding that, okay you know healing can’t happen instantaneously, it can be over a period of time. It can be retrospective and so I committed to my own self-care and my healing journey, and my self-care programme was quite fast and I also understood… so big big learning for me came here, compared to what I did before, that in order to do what I wanted to do, in order to be really good at what I was doing in helping others as a hypnotherapist, I had to look after myself first and foremost. I had to be in a really really good way in order to hold space for my clients so it was almost like a step huge step forward from what I’ve done previously where I hid what was- what was not right with me and just carried on. Whereas the mask- it’s not possible to have a mask doing this type of work.

[Roksana] No, no, and obviously you’re listening to very detailed accounts of people’s darkest traumas and obviously that requires space to recuperate yourself.

[Beejal] Completely, completely. And you know, interestingly the anxiety lifted and that was- that was amazing. So it actually didn’t take long to leave, and the autoimmune conditions, the understanding behind them but the- emotional pause that, was very powerful in itself and doing what I needed to do… so it’s really working on a variety of levels, and it’s not just mindset. Mindset is hugely important but it’s also understanding that the chemistry of the body has changed over a long period of time, so looking at what I was eating nutritionally, looking at what I’m putting in my body, and also looking at what I’m doing… so in terms of exercise, also have breath therapy because when one has anxiety it can affect their breathing… and I’d had a near death experience when I was younger, when I was 17, I had been hit by a car and I had almost died, and so I was aware that my breathing wasn’t really as it should be, so it was a great opportunity really delve into healing modality that would suit me. But the hypnotherapy was pivotal, it was crucial. And then there’s self-care that helps support you because life continues, you’re still faced with challenges in life which then become lessons and blessings.

[Roksana] How did your relationship with yourself change? So the self-talk that was probably getting on just before your “unfit to work” notice came through from the GP, how did it shift over the- over the next few months when you started to engage with this modality?

[Beejal] Yeah, so I think when I got the declaration, you know that I was like… I was like how can it have come to this? I’m kind of halfway through my life – well, I don’t know how I’m going to live, but you know in terms of my- you know – is this is this the way I want to be for the rest of my life? I was told that the conditions were ones that I would have to live with and I realised, I had this moment where I thought I’m not prepared to accept this prognosis. I’m not prepared- there is a diagnosis, I’m not prepared to accept this prognosis. I actually felt that within me and my body that it had the power to be able to heal itself if I allowed it to, and so this was quite profound in itself for me that I wasn’t going to go with what had- even though I have great respect for doctors, that I took- I took responsibility for my health and that’s when things really started to shift and change. I decided I was going to make the choices for me.

[Roksana] So you went from being somebody who’s been given a diagnosis, felt almost for a moment at the mercy of whatever medical intervention might be available to you, to changing that narrative into I’m going to take responsibility for my health, I’m going to empower myself with the right information, with the right knowledge and with the new experiences that I need to heal.

[Beejal] Yeah, with the right support as well. So yeah, it was as if it became- it changed for me when I started to trust myself more and this is where the intuition came in. Before that wasn’t there. When somebody has anxiety, they are unwell, they don’t- that inner satellite navigation system isn’t switched on, it’s not operating… and so when I was able to step back from life and ground myself, then the intuition came on board and something that could help guide me. So that that was really quite a big shift for me to learn to trust myself… and the inner talk= you know it’s understanding that there is going to be inner talk and it’s really getting conscious over the mindset, over the programming, and there’s some programming that was really helpful from my childhood but there were some programming that I had to let go of. And it would became a thing for me that I literally had to recreate myself, to become the best version of myself… so I had to let go of some aspects of me that actually weren’t really me, does that make sense? To become who I really was, so really aligning to become myself.

[Roksana] How did you get clarity over who you wanted to be?

[Beejal] Gave myself time, space and permission to be me… and it was- it was to find the joy in my life, where was that joy, and it was things like art and music. I started to paint- I hadn’t painted for many year. It was honouring, really, who I really was. Swimming everyday, just doing things brought me- gave me a sense of peace inside, and really learning who I was and what I like to do.  Nature, again, nature is huge for me. To connect to nature meant that I could connect to who I was.

[Roksana] So was that was that walking more than you were before?

[Beejal] Yeah I live in a beautiful park and I hadn’t really made use of it or stepped out into the park. Just things like being mindful, like just watching birds in my garden… just watching them and observing them and we’ve had birds nesting for the last five years in our garden so we’re about to have a new bird family again soon, and I was just in wonder. I could I could be watching them for half an hour just being connected to the present moment and it brought me a lot of joy, it’s something I never used to do.

[Roksana] And so through these self-healing habits, just connecting with nature, just painting whenever your heart desired, the breath therapy and obviously with the hypnotherapy, all of those. These- all of these compounded, I’m guessing, and gave you the lift that you needed to heal.

[Beejal] Oh, definitely. And you know, whatever would benefit me, it was my nature that I want to share this with others. So my clients benefited, they benefited when my intuition heightened, they benefited when I – when I- so whatever I experienced, then I can recommend that to clients. And so I was walking my- talking my walk.

[Roksana] What do you love most about your life now?

[Beejal] I love that I live life on my terms. I decide how I work, how much I work, who I work with. I get to decide, and I also love that I’m committed to balance. It’s not just about work, it’s about my relationship with myself… so I give myself the commitment for my inner development. Also relationships with my family, with my friends. Really I think it’s understanding that it is my mission to help others. I have to help myself first and that’s been a big shift for me because I realised that it was actually being like a martyr before… wanting to help others but not really going within as much as I should, but also the curiosity and fascination of learning has stayed with me ever since I was a child. And just I love to learn and I’m- I’m fascinated with neuroscience, I’m fascinated with quantum physics and fascinated with the mindset and we are able to literally recreate ourselves and we’re all here for a unique purpose. And it can be on an individual level, it can be on a community level and be on a humanity level- it doesn’t matter cause it creates ripple effects in terms of what advice I can give. If there is somebody who has a dream, then it’s really a journey to be getting out of your own way and saying, well if I share my story, if I wanna set up this business,  if I want to do this project, if I want to collaborate in this… is this for the greater good of me and the world? Because if it is, then those- that inner critic and those people that don’t approve, you’ve got to then come to a choice that OK what am I choosing? And a lot of the time, that inner critic or the ego is often a safety net. It is often based on our part experiences and there to keep us safe but actually the magic is in the unknown. So actually when I had the breakdown, it actually became a breakthrough, so it’s moving from fear to really moving to living life out of love and understanding we’ve got this one life and we should all want to live this life and make the most of this life. And it’s not based on you know how much money we make, or you know how many businesses we have… it is more based on the content and feeling of peace and fulfilment. So if somebody’s got a dream or if somebody doesn’t know what their dream is, find your joy. And if you have a dream, then everyday commit to grounding yourself, give yourself that time for your intuition to help guide you. Seek support and also just take inspired action and the only competition is with yourself, it’s not with anyone else. You’re only competing to be the best version of yourself. It’s also leading to taking responsibility for ourselves and being empowered, being the creators of our life rather than life happening to us, it’s happening for us… so we can take whatever is a lesson as actually a blessing. So the challenges in life have gotta happen and it’s how we respond, if we can react less, respond more. This is- this is what life is about it’s not that- challenging things are going to happen to us and what we’re going to find – what I have found is the more I have grown, the more I have learnt, grown, evolved, there’s been more challenges presented. And it is amazing when we look at, this is the way we can evolve. Our potential- as we evolve, our potential expands and we evolve even more, and so we can have a purpose, but that purpose may expand, shift, change overtime… and so it’s a beautiful journey- it’s a dance, really, of just continuing to commit to discovering who we are and it is having that balance in our lives. It’s ongoing, it’s not complete, it’s not just done. I mean, for me now, it’s continued to allow an author, and this is being a lifelong dream for me… and I’m not just part of one book, I’m actually on a second book right now. So the first book is called Female Changemakers, and I’m sharing my story with 49 other global female changemakers on how we can actually share our story to help inspire others to do the same, to enact change in the world by really discovering that change latent within them. My second book is on happiness and I’ve had to delve deeper into myself and have this connection with nature- deeper connection with nature, more of a divine connection with nature, and I want to share that with the world because when we go to uncertain times, we can find certainty in who we are. And it’s okay to have uncertainty in some respects, but if we are feeling empowered and realise that we can actually be in the driving seat of our life, then that is empowerment.

[Roksana] It is, I agree 100%. What took the longest to learn or accept about yourself?

[Beejal] Yes well, accepting myself… accepting myself; because I was brought up to believe that we had to conform, being different was not good. And what I’ve learned is being different is great! It’s wonderful and I accept myself completely for who I am. I have the right to evolve, I’m unique, I’m creative. I love who I am; I am a master and a work in progress at the same time.

[Roksana] And Beejal, if you could go back in time and whisper little life lesson or an affirmation to the little girl in you, what would you say to her?

[Beejal] Stay curious, and a dreamer. Just keep being you. Our inner world creates outer world. She may not have understood that last part, but she would have been reminded of it ongoing and it would have unfolded.

[Roksana] It would have, and it did. I think if you got back to being curious after a little diversion in your life- but I think everything happens for a reason.

[Beejal] The investment in ourselves, if we can invest in ourselves, everything else is taken care of. So the biggest investment we can make is in ourselves. We’re also investing in terms of money as well because you think everything is energy, and if we can invest in ourselves, in self-care, not just in learning but self-care. That was something that I wasn’t taught, you see, as a child. Self-care was seen as a luxury. And for me, self-care is crucial, vital.

[Roksana] So Beejal, you mentioned your book, the book you have co-authored – where can my listeners find that? When is it available?

[Beejal] So the book is being released at the end of May. It is available on Amazon so they can download it as a Kindle edition. If they want to order a copy, I have signed copies that I’m happy to send. My details can be found on my website I also have a free audio available to your listeners to help them raise their vibration.

[Roksana] Amazing, that would be really good. I think the planet needs that right now.

[Beejal] You know there’s a quote if I’m allowed to share it, I just saw it today and I think – I hope you like it and it fits with everything we talked about. “There is no time limit or race. Sometimes, the people with the greatest potential often take the longest to find their path, because their sensitivity is a double-edged sword. It lives in the heart of their brilliance, but it also makes them more susceptible to life’s pains. Good thing we’re not penalised for handing in our purpose late. The soul doesn’t know a thing about deadlines.” And that quote is by Jeff Brown.

[Roksana] That’s amazing. That’s really lovely. It’s so true, isn’t it? So true, every single bit of it. Thank you so much for your time today, Beejal.

[Beejal] Thank you, Roksana. Thank you for having me.