A life coach holds a safe confidential space to share details of your personal issues to better manage or overcome them.

Life has a way of overwhelming us. It can seem like you are doing just fine for the longest time and then out of the blue you experience dysfunction. Stress and anxiety cast a shadow on areas of your life that surprise you. Your thoughts and feelings don’t feel like your own. You struggle to recognise or make sense of what is happening to you, and you certainly don’t know how to make it all stop. It’s times like these people usually reach out to a life coach.

That’s not to say you can’t reach out to a life coach when you’re in a good place. You absolutely can work with a life coach for goal setting or goal attaining purpose. You might be looking to elevate your life and you want to follow a framework that is personalised for you. Life coaches have many frameworks and blueprints they can adapt to your specific outcomes.

A few questions you can ask yourself:

1. How are my stress levels at the moment?

2. How is anxiety affecting my day-to-day life?

3. Am I sleeping really well?

4. Am I scared of something, someone or a situation that I need to address?

5. Am I happy and secure in my relationship?

6. Am I confident person or have I adapted my life to stay safely within a comfort zone?

7. Do I have a tendency of lashing out or reacting in a way that is disproportionate?

8. Am I trying to learn or do something new but keep losing momentum?

There are many more questions for your consideration but one or two of these might help you to reflect on your current situation. Your answer to these questions will help you make a decision about enlisting life coaching.

The conversation you have with a life coach depends on your issue and the scope set out by the life coach. A life coach will encourage you to share your thoughts, feelings and behaviours relating to the personal issues you are having. They will ask open questions to give you the opportunity to share as much as you are consciously aware off.

Your issues will generally fall into four main categories of life. Relationships, Health, Finances or Career. Of course, it’s possible for your issues to touch upon more than one area of life. The coach will guide you to clarify and prioritise the areas that require the most immediate attention.

You can talk to your life coach about the situations, people, fears, or blocks holding you back from overcoming or accomplishing the outcome you desire. You’ll be invited to share any work you have attempted and the degree of success. All coaches should meet you at the stage you are at ensuring you are never overwhelmed with information or actions.

You can talk to your life coach about fears you wish to overcome. Life coaches have techniques to help you manage the intensity of the fears using Neurolinguistic Programming and Hypnotherapy. Before hiring you coach, check they have these skills.

You can talk to your life coach about the relationship you have with yourself. What does your critical inner voice say? How do you talk to yourself when you have made a mistake? How do you feel about yourself when you look in the mirror? The deeper aspects of the mind and negative opinions affect your personal reality. The words you say and the recurring thoughts you have on a regular basis will influence the quality of your life.

Life Coaches are not specialists. For example, if you are having financial issues, they will be interested in the ways you are affected emotionally and behaviourally. They will collaborate with you to improve your situation, so it has less impact on your emotions. They will suggest behavioural changes to minimise further descent. They will not be able to guide you on specific financial decisions as this will be outside of the coaching relationship scope.

Having some awareness of your issues and the type of coach you require will give you far better results. If you are having financial issues, then it is better to find a financial coach or a money mindset coach. They are likely to support with the emotional and behavioural side whilst also sharing specific steps to improve your financial issue. Similarly, if you need couples coaching then seek out a specialist who is trained to hold this space for you.

Hi! I’m Roksana. I’m a life coach for women in St Albans, Hertfordshire. I run face to face and online sessions via Zoom. I also specialise in trauma healing. I’m always happy to answer your questions around any of my methods or approaches. Long term changes begin with a guide who has walked a similar path, has a blueprint, will give you support and accountability every step of the way. If you’re interested to know more then please book a FREE call with me.